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While I was on the road for the The Being of a Nation road trip, I found that I was reading the news and checking my various feeds much less then I usually do. I knew enough to be aware of what was going on in the country, but I was not obsessive about checking/reading/watching/scrolling (which I have a tendency to do!). It was fascinating to feel like I knew what was going on based on what people chose to mention to me that day. The fact that, in just three months, there were so many momentous events taking place that it was newsworthy enough to mention to me, a complete stranger, felt significant.
I also found that many people were careful to coach their words with me. I appreciated that they did not want to make assumptions about me, but I also got the sense that it was more about them then about me. These people would say, “I don’t want to get political…” or “I choose to stay out of politics…” These responses tended to come out after I asked my question about their feelings on the “being of the nation.”
It was in this moment that I wished I were videotaping, instead of just recording their voices, because their facial expressions always told a story. There inevitably would be a long sigh before they tried to avoid “getting political.” I also found that once the microphone was off, people were much more open with me about their political views.
It was clear that the news is on people’s minds. The news has always been a topic that’s discussed, but it is hard to go many places today without it being the center of conversation. It’s weighing heavily on the country’s conscious and soul.
The purpose of my work while on The Being of a Nation road trip was to just listen. It was to collect stories and hear what others wanted to share with me. It was not a discussion, which at certain times really challenged me. Because, here’s the thing – I am political. It is very hard for me to remain quiet if I feel someone’s civil liberties and/or human rights are being challenged.
Yet, I also found that the act of just listening made me feel more engaged with my fellow humans than I had in a very long time. It put me in a vulnerable space, and also made me deeply appreciate the vulnerability that the stranger was showing me. I wasn’t reading or watching the news as much, but I was learning about my country and fellow citizens in a way that made me feel more hopeful, alive, and connected.
I was actively engaged with gathering information instead of passively consuming it.
This has been on my mind, as I find myself obsessively reading articles again – falling into deep holes of online stories about sexual assaults and plea deals and disastrous bills. It is consuming my thoughts and taking up a lot of my energy. The stark contrast to what I felt while on The Being of a Nation road trip versus how I feel now has been a wonderful metric to thinking about how I want to be in my day-to-day life.
We are about to move into a new year – which gives us a chance to reevaluate how we want to approach our days, so that they are aligned with how we want to be in the world.
If you are also endlessly consumed by what our media channels are feeding us, might I propose that you do these three things in 2018:
1. Limit your news intake to 30-60 minutes a day. You can break the time up as you see fit, but the important part is that you do not go past an hour. Set a timer and consume what you can in that amount of time. Then you cut it off. It is enough time to educate yourself on the news of the day, so that you can be aware, but does not suck you into the endless cycle. Remember that these media channels are businesses that make more money the longer we scroll, click, and watch.
2. Commit to using that “extra” time you would normally be spending consuming news, by connecting to someone in your community – that can be someone you know or a stranger. This could be talking to the person who is sitting next to you on the subway/bus instead of being on your phone, stopping by a co-worker’s desk to have a 15 minute conversation, visiting an elderly neighbor who you have wanted to know better and asking about her life…basically, just engage with a real, live person. One woman who I interviewed in Virginia said that she has committed herself to calling three people a day. She checks in on them, asks them what she can do to help them, or just calls to let them know that she is thinking about them. It is a simple act, but can have a huge impact. The moral being – pick something that you know you can commit to doing, and stick to it. Exchange one passive habit for an active one.
3. Track how these changes affect how you are feeling – about yourself, about the world, about other people, about how you spend your time. As Annie Dillard pointed out, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing.” I would argue that it is not only what we are doing, but also how we are being.
“News” is simply “newly received or noteworthy information, especially about recent or important events.” So…be the news that you want to see in the world! 2018 is depending on it.
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Hi Kïrsten, love this post. It definitely resonates with me. I like what you said about listening to others and letting yourself be vulnerable. Also, the consuming of the news. I feel like it is a catch 22, i want to be informed and know whats going on….but it may drive me insane. I am definitely going to start today to limit my news consumption and focus that time on more positive things. Thanks for this post. Enjoy your holidays!
Thank you, Kerry! I have talked to so many people who feel exactly the same way you do – and that includes me! It is finding the harmony between being informed/aware, but not consumed. If you remember/have the time, I’d love to hear what you replace that time with, as well as what you find works for you/doesn’t work for you in limiting your news consumption! Happy Holidays to you and your lovely family!
Kirsten, thank you for your profound insights. I too have limited my listening to the news. I can do little about most of the poor choices of others. One of my daughter’s co-teachers shared that children are affected by the news as well. She shared with me a book “Come With Me” by Holly McGhee. It is about parents helping their daughter balance her perspective on good and bad in the world. I am working on a Christmas Eve children’s sermon around it. Merry Christmas to you and your good family. Keith Sundberg
Keith – thank you for telling me about the children’s book – I will have to check that out! I find that children’s books can actually be quite helpful to adults, as it brings things down to the essential simplicity of life and can remind us of important things that often get lost in our “adult world!” So, I can imagine that your Christmas Eve sermon was helpful to more than just he little ones in the room! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and all the Sundbergs!
Thanks, Kirsten, for your thoughts; you are always interesting and I can loaf doing nothing except the blessings of eating, reading, and knowing that you especially and your family and colleagues are attending to the mission of the Harford Land Trust and taking it to even more fruitful progress. On Thursday evening Trudy and I had dinner with Bob & Lee Crush, at their home, and with Charlie Conklin and his friend, Sandra; we knew well his late wife, “Buff” who died in 2012.
Let me know if we could help the Trust, but my memory is “slow off the mark” and Trudy is still fast pretty fast.
Our regards to your parents too,
Thank you so much for your note, David! We met in Baltimore on my road trip, The Being of a Nation. Hope that all is well for you since our meeting in September. All the best!