My father sent the above email to me earlier this year, and I received it one random day as a surprise message in my inbox. He sent it through the site’s online contact form, which made receiving it all the better. Even though he has told me he checks the site out, you are never quite sure if it is true or just loving parental rhetoric. This short but sweet note was a small, yet huge gesture of support. It meant that he had taken the time to go to the site, and, even though I know he isn’t entirely sure what I hope to do with Chapter Be, he didn’t push for some clearer explanation – he just showed up.
I have come to realize that the most important thing you can get from a parent is that they show up. They are there and present. All a child ever really wants is for their parent to just be there. Not expecting anything from them or demanding anything. Not trying to get you to fill a void in their own life, but just being a present force of love and support.
My father worked insane hours when I was younger, but I always knew that he tried his hardest to show up for all of the soccer games, plays, track meets, teacher meetings and milestone moments. He had a job where a lot of people depended on him, but I actively watched him try and make sure that his family knew that we could depend on him, too. I know that to this day, if I call my father – no matter what else is going on – he will show up. He will be there, supporting, listening and guiding when asked.
So – how do you be a good dad? Show up. Just be and allow your child to be. You support their being as a unique soul and allow that soul to grow in their own way and time.
So, on this Father’s Day – I just want to say…Thank you, Dad, for always showing up. Thank you for being a constant and dependable force in my life. Thank you for sharing your kind and loving heart with me, and for sending little fantastic notes about my “blog site.”
And…thank you for little nuggets of wisdom like this one:
You lead by example, and I wouldn’t be who I am today without you. So…thank you for being you.