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“The Most Important Question of Your Life”


Today I came across Mark Manson‘s article, The Most Important Question of Your Life which was published on his site almost a year ago. I believe that it came to me exactly when it needed to, though, as I am not sure if I would have gotten the same thing out of it a year ago. The universe put it in front of me at the time when I needed to read it the most.

In the article Mark encourages everyone not to ask, “What will make me happy?” but “What are you willing to struggle for?” His point being that life is hard – and that if all you are interested in is the result that will come at the end of a struggle, then you might want to reevaluate whether or not your truly want it. “Because happiness requires struggle…If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs.”

People want to start their own business or become financially independent. But you don’t end up a successful entrepreneur unless you find a way to love the risk, the uncertainty, the repeated failures, and working insane hours on something you have no idea whether will be successful or not. Some people are wired for that sort of pain, and those are the ones who succeed.

Mark gives an example of his own desire to be a rock star, but ultimate concludes, “I thought I wanted something, but it turns out I didn’t. End of story. I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight but only the victory. And life doesn’t work that way.”

I’ve recently been really struggling with where Chapter Be is going and whether or not it is making traction for those who are reading it. I am not entirely sure where it is going and that uncertainty is filling me with quite a bit of fear. This article was the reminder I needed that I have to learn how to embrace this not-knowing, and that if I do not have a love for the struggle, then I might need to reevaluate why it is that I am doing it. We have to love the day-to-day of what we do otherwise it feels as though we are always striving for something else. That is a very disheartening way to go through life!

I strongly encourage all to read the article in its entirety. Even if you are not someone who is in the process of trying to start your own business, it is still applicable to you in that we need to ask this question in all areas of our life. So…how do you chose to suffer?

Image via Sylwia Bartyzel 

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